Emotional coaching fosters self-awareness. After an aggressive incident, wait until your child is calm, then sit side by side and say, “I noticed your face felt tight and your hands were fists.” Offer emotion cards or drawings to help them label what they felt anger, frustration, confusion. Ask gently, “What was happening before you felt that way?” Listen without judgment. Validate: “It makes sense you felt mad when the noise was so loud.” Brainstorm with them: “Next time, what else could you try?” Write down their ideas deep breathing, counting, hugging a stuffed animal and post them where they’re visible. Over time, naming feelings and solutions empowers your child to anticipate and manage surges before they turn aggressive.
